Life isn’t perfect. It is full of ups and downs. Highs and lows. Right and wrong. We don’t have the capability to control everything that happens to us. This is especially true when it comes to how we are treated by others, it is virtually impossible to control people. Furthermore, keeping someone from hurting you intentionally or not. When an offense has happened grand or rather insignificant it is up to you to forgive. It’s for your benefit. To forgive is the first step in HEALING.

The healing process is started by forgiveness. It is a mission statement of sorts for the intent to let a situation go and move forward. It doesn’t mean that it won’t still affect you or that you return to normal right away. It takes time. And depending on the circumstances it could take years to completely heal. You’ll know you’re healed when you can talk about the incident without emotion. It is as if you’re reading a story from a book without emotion attachment.

I realized that although I had already forgiven someone I was still healing from the implications of the hurt behind their unintentional actions. As I continue to move forward and make the adjustments to be a better me I’m still healing. I actually thought I was good but a bit of emotions stirred up when talking about the situation. I’m ok with it, I’ve come a long way. It is indeed a process…HEALING!

Quote: “Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.” -Louis B. Smedes

Tip: Forgive quickly, it’s for you. As you move forward dealing and healing know that it doesn’t happen overnight.